One of the hardest decisions a parent can make is choosing a nanny and putting your child into someone else’s care that you barely know. Your decision meets constant worries, and you’re more than scared to have regrets later on. You cross fingers that the nanny is going to be a perfect fit — a Mary Poppins clone. However, things may not turn out as you had intended and you are forced with a difficult decision of letting the nanny go. The following are signs that your nanny has to stop working for you.
When you get information from your neighbors, most of it tends to be true. You may discover that your nanny is bringing her friends without informing you. It is good to ask your children how their day was, and you may inadvertently discover something odd about your nanny. When a nanny brings her friends to your house without telling you, most likely there may be other things she may be doing in your house behind your back. The nanny ought to share major information on how your child’s day was with you. It is extremely important to have trust and openness in parent-nanny relationships. Keeping secrets does not promote a healthy relationship and there is no need for the parent to tolerate such a person to start with.
At first, your child may cry when left alone with the nanny. This could be due to anxiety. But if this continues over time with the child showing fear and being withdrawn in the nanny’s presence, then let that be a red flag that not all is well and there is a need for some investigation. If your state allows, a nanny cam can be installed in your house.
Chaos in the house
Coming home from a tiring job and ending up in a house full of mess means that the nanny is not undertaking her chores well. A nanny helps you to unburden yourself, but that does not imply coming home to correct many wrongs. It will thus be of no use trying to hold on to that kind of relationship.
Are your valuables disappearing from your house and not turning up? Did this start happening after hiring your nanny? Then it is likely that there is a thief in your home and it could be your nanny. The nanny should not be allowed in your house or she may take another valuable item afterward.
Hooked on to electronics
Do you come home to find the television on; or your nanny is on the phone? Children need to be nurtured with the adults’ eyes squarely on them. Taking your eyes off the child for just a short time may result in a tragedy that should have been avoided. When you notice that most of your nanny’s time on electronics supersedes that of your child, you should prepare to have your nanny fired.
An unkempt and dirty child
If it has become a norm to finding your child with dirty fingers and face, then it is a sign that your nanny is neglecting your child and job. A good nanny will clean the child’s hands and face after eating and from outdoor play. The diaper should be changed when full and if need be, the child is given a proper bath. A nanny who cannot perform such basic nanny tasks should not be taking care of your child.
Change in behavior
A parent who notices a change in the child’s behavior should act immediately. Such changes, albeit minor at times, may include having night terrors, becoming too clingy, or starting to wet the bed. If the child is old enough to communicate, ask how their day was while assuring that all is well. You may be forced to install a nanny cam to investigate what transpires when you are not around.
Tired all the time
A nanny should be fit and have lots of stamina to diligently do her work. She should have lots of energy to run after the child during playtime and move around while working. One who keeps complaining of exhaustion won’t provide the expected amount of care and work. She is likely to be less engaging to your child. Such a nanny should be fired immediately.
If you notice that your child keeps getting severe injuries all the time, that is yet another sign of trouble. Either your child is not being well supervised, or there may be some physical abuse being involved. The matter becomes graver if the nanny tries to hide the injuries or doesn’t report the accident cases to you. Accidents should not be taken for granted and if need be, have a nanny cam installed. Such a nanny should not be allowed near your child.
Arrival and departure times should be discussed and agreed upon on the vetting day. A nanny who calls out frequently, keeps coming late, or doesn’t turn up for work, may jeopardize your career plans. This shows that the nanny is neither committed to her work nor sensitive to her employer’s needs. The parent should cut ties immediately with the unreliable nanny.
Firing your nanny can be a difficult situation but one of the best decisions you’d have made. However, always seek an audience with the nanny before cutting ties as this will furnish her with the reasons for her job termination.